Mindful Tip #7: Shift from What’s Wrong to What’s Right

Mindful Tip #7 What's right with you

I talked in an earlier blog about how I thought something was terribly wrong with me for feeling anxious.

Another layer to this story is the way in which I habitually identified myself as an anxious person. Not anxious once in a while or anxious for situations I really cared about, an anxious person. As you might imagine, this label I’d unconsciously placed upon myself was confining, for various reasons. For one, the moments, hours, even days I wasn’t anxious seldom registered in my consciousness. Then there was just a slight imbalance (okay, quite large, really) in my perspective of who I was, which meant I rarely stopped to consider that I was more than my anxiety.

Too often in our fault-driven world, we can fall prey to obsessing about what’s wrong with us. In my case, I used to think, “I’m not centered, calm or confident enough. And in social situations, I lacked the ability to come across as knowledgeable or worthy of respect.” While we all have growing edges and there may have been some truth to this perspective, it wasn’t the whole truth.

I, like you, also have innate capacities and strengths that validate my worth and ability to contribute to the world. Yet, these inherently positive qualities often go unnoticed. Which means it’s our ‘job’ to be more intentional about noticing them. Please know that we don’t focus on strengths to pretend that real problems don’t exist. Rather we focus on strengths because we are whole people who are much, much more than our foibles and faults.

See if you can turn the lens of attention to what’s right with you for a change. Even the fact that you’re carving time out of your busy life to read this blog is a big deal. It shows your commitment to health and healing and your courage to discover new ways to relate to yourself when you feel anxious or upset.

Breon Michel

About Breon

Mindfulness teacher, compassionate community leader, entrepreneur, writer, stress reduction aficionado, hope igniter, adventure seeker, mountain biker, devoted to others

2 Responses to “Mindful Tip #7: Shift from What’s Wrong to What’s Right”

  1. Jackie Mossman

    I enjoyed reading the “H.U.B.,” Breon. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Josie enjoyed meeting you on Easter. I forwarded your newsletter to her. We said next fall when she returns we will try to sign up for a class or workshop of yours. XOXO

    • Breon

      Thanks for reading, Jackie! Would love to have you and Josie attend a class whenever it works for your schedules!