My life changed just a smidge when I became a parent. Change that I wouldn’t trade for the world. And also change that took some time to accept.
My morning routine used to consist of quiet personal time and focused work time. A lovely little blend that got my day started on the right foot.
Now, I have a baby boy who wakes up hungry and urgently needs his mommy’s attention – and naturally, right when I’m in the middle of something.
Needless to say, my mornings of quiet focus are gone. Or, at least that’s what I thought until I gave this predicament a little more thought.
Are peace and quiet completely dependent on life circumstances? Or, do we have some choice in the matter? What does our inner stance, or attitude, have to do with peace?
Quite a bit, as it turns out. The basic premise of mindfulness is that it teaches us to relate to challenging, unpredictable, ever-changing circumstances with more ease and intentionality.
One of the ways I finally came to terms with my ‘new’ normal was to clarify my intentions. What did I want my morning to look like now that I had this little bundle in my life? How could we journey through the morning in a way that supported both of our needs?
These questions made me realize that edginess, worry, and rushing full steam ahead didn’t have to be the predominant themes in my morning. I could create a morning that reflected my intentions and values (as I talked about before). Purposefully connecting with my son over giggles and dancing and carving out time for quiet focus.
Parent or not, mornings are a fruitful time to live with greater purpose and intentionality. We can easily speed through our morning without even realizing we’ve showered, drank a mug (or jug) of coffee, and kissed our loved ones goodbye. Then this rush follows us into the car, office, and possibly even back home that day. It feels crummy for you – and I’m guessing, everyone around you, too.
One of the ways to shift your morning from surviving to living is to take stock of your intentions. What do you want your morning to look like? Are you giving yourself time to simply be before you launch into hours worth of doing? Or, are you leaping out of bed, racing to your computer, and operating on an adrenaline high for the rest of the day? Might you be willing to let go of a habit that’s no longer serving you? I’d love to hear what you discover!